Good advicePosted: October 11, 2013
Described in an article on being a good (or bad) sport parent, a Proactive Coaching survey asked college athletes what made them feel great, happy after a game. Their response: When their parents told them “I love to watch you play.”
From A Cup of Jo:
Isn’t that lovely? These kids didn’t want to hear criticism or coaching or even praise from their parents. They simply wanted to hear that their parents loved to watch them play. Kids get enough pressure from teachers, coaches, peers and themselves; you just want unconditional love from your parents, right?
I’ve been struggling with encouraging Henry without the burden of praise. Sometimes even better than saying “you sing so well” (as opposed to “you are a good singer”) will be to say “I love hearing you sing.” Which I do.
I love watching you play, Henry.